You can have dumb things on the internet, just make sure you control who sees them
I meet people in passing all the time and it always baffles me when they add me on Facebook. I'm not your friend, but you clearly want to be forever linked because we stood next to each other for 20 minutes at a bar. It is enjoyable for me though, because the very first thing I do after seeing your friend request is check out your profile and all of your pics. Why? Because I love looking at train wrecks.
In the last few months here are a few things I have seen:
- People puking on themselves in a photo album
- Obscene numbers of drunk photos
- Really, really dumb/racist things said in in updates
- Being a fan of or in dumb groups like "F*** this stupid derka from a bad vampire movie!!!"
- Anything ultra embarrassing like poor music or TV choices (Nickelback, Lifetime, etc.)
Disgraceful. If I write for a blog called "Immediate Regret," just think what potential employers or the friends of the girl you just started dating must think when they see that. You can avoid me seeing these things by following one simple rule: don't let the public see them. Look, we all may have done some dumb things in college (or are still doing them), and there are probably pictures of it somewhere. I'm not telling you not to have a good time, I'm just making sure that good time doesn't come back to bite you.
It is pretty simple to privatize your life. Just follow these steps:
- Set everything on your account only available to friends. Not friends of friends or my network(s), just friends. If you are set to public, go do this right now and then come back.
- Create a group of friends that you actually trust (you don't really trust all 600 of your Facebook friends, do you?) and then adjust your privacy settings so they are the only ones that can see your photos or other personal stuff. Love to say dumb things in your status? Protect that too.
- Cut a whole shit ton of people from your friends list (see rule #3)
- If you use Twitter, protect your Twitter account and remove any followers you don't know.
If you trust who sees your stuff, then you'll probably be ok. Just make sure that you really trust them.