Monday, December 6, 2010

Double M's Life Rules #3: Cut Down Your Facebook Friends List

Posted by Double M




Are you really "friends" with 700 people? No. Besides you don't want them all to have access to anything public about you on Facebook.

There's been a ton of chatter about this lately, but I'm going to give my take on it anyway.

Go log into Facebook. Then click Profile >> Edit Friends (it is in the top-right corner). Then start scrolling through your friends and ask yourself these questions:
  • Do I gain any personal, comedic, or business value by being friends with this person on Facebook?
  • Do I have to be friends with this person on Facebook? (for whatever reason - you know what I mean)
If you answered yes to either of those questions, move onto the next friend. Otherwise, ask yourself these questions:
  • Did I know this person was married?
  • Did I know this person has kids?
  • If I was visiting a city this person lived in, would I call them?
  • Do I care what is happening in this person's life?
If you said "no" to any of those questions about someone then you should probably de-friend them.

If you're still on the fence about them, ask yourself this one last question: do I want this person to be able to see everything (or anything) about me?

"No?"

Off the friends list.

If you're still not sure you agree with me, check out articles by people smarter than me here and here.

9 comments:

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Double M said...

A friend messaged me her qualifications and she had a question that I thought was interesting:

"When I see your name, do warm memories come to mind?"

For me, this is rolled into my final question, but it is a valid point.

MajorLB said...

Oooh I like that one. I'm still FB friends with someone who I haven't had any contact with in 8 years but we were friends for pretty much my whole life prior to that so I like having that weak, tenuous connection to her. Bonus: she's still friends with all of the people from high school so I get brief glimpses of them as well through her profile.

Double M said...

Nothing like a little FB stalking.

To be fair, I have Shorty's account for that, but I never use it because I just don't care

R4 DS said...

She is always the friend of all the people from high school, so I'm short sighted of them, and thanks to his profile.

Tony said...

I have a lot of Facebook friends that I don't know very well, most of them being fellow writers and bloggers, or lensmasters on Squidoo.

I find it handy to have so many friends, in the hope that my articles get more exposure, and a lot of us do actually interract, which is nice.

The thing that annoys me are friend requests from people who I have nobody in common with. Those always get ignored, since the accounts almost always look spammy.

MajorLB said...

I just removed 50 FB friends!

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Heres the link you pick what group they ought to be in u may even make groups, well the new facebook doesn't let someone see you are friends anymore anyways. Facebook introduces new options that make it all feasible.

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