Double M's Life Rules #10: Don't Include Your Parents in Your Wedding Party

Posted by Double M




You might have some awesome parents (like me - I'm awesome), but your wedding party should be your closest friends and not your mom or dad.

Planning a wedding can be a crazy whirlwind full of tons of decisions. Even if you are marrying someone that is planning the whole thing, there is at least one decision every person getting married has to decide: who will stand next to you as the groomsmen and bridesmaids.

This process can be stressful and I've seen all kinds of decisions made here (trust me I was invited to 18 weddings one summer!) - gigantic wedding parties, no wedding parties, good friends left out, and old, now irrelevant promises honored. I have no clue what the guidelines for picking out the wedding party is, but it seems like everyone follows their own made up rules. It doesn't really matter though - pretty much everything is on the table and no one should be mad about who you choose.

But there is one thing that always comes across really, really weird - people that have their parents in the wedding party. If you include your one of your parents in your wedding party, here are things that are will probably happen:

• The rest of the wedding party will be thrown off and not able to completely celebrate because of the "parent" stigma (no matter how cool that parent is)


• All of your wedding pictures will be a little weird because your parent will stick out


• You will end up fighting with the parent in the wedding party on your wedding day about something stupid


• Your dad will walk down the aisle with a younger girl (looking awkward and kinda like a creeper) or your mom will walk down the aisle with a younger guy that is either not excited about the fact that he has a non-his-age bridesmaid or very excited about the potential of putting a MILF on his scorecard.


• People will think you are a weird kid that can't let go of your parents

Yes, your parents (probably) helped shape your life and they may even be good friends with you, but including them in the wedding party guarantees that at least one of the things I listed above will happen.

For your parents, your wedding should be a time that they celebrate you growing up together. They can't do this if one of them is standing up at the alter with you. So let them celebrate and avoid all of these pitfalls and just don't include them in your wedding party (B - if you ask me, I'd say no anyway, so you're good there).